Why Most of Us Struggle to Make Long Lasting Changes
Self regulation
Self awareness
Self acceptance
Self responsibility
All 4 are needed for a change to happen. Before you can take responsibility for something, you have to accept that it exist. Before you can accept that something exists, you have to become aware of it. And before you can become aware of something, you have to have enough resources and capacity to hold that awareness.
Change is only possible if you allow all four steps to happen on their own timing. You can’t force yourself or anyone else to see what they are not ready to see. You can’t force yourself or anyone else to accept what they are not ready to accept.
And the biggest challenge, you can’t force yourself or anyone else to take responsibility for their actions, behaviour or a specific situation before they are ready to acknowledge their own part in it.
Becoming ready for any of these steps is not something we decide with our mind. Most situations, behaviours and actions are rooted into our nervous system states and they all serve a purpose until they don’t any longer.
We all have our own path to travel and sometimes it’s takes longer before we are ready to face (become aware of) certain things. There’s a unique timing for each and every step and change happens much easier when we let it unravel naturally.
It is so easy to say “why didn’t I see this earlier?” but what remains in the unconscious mind, is not accessible for you until you become conscious of it. And that requires a certain level of trust with your body and capacity so that you can hold that awareness. Until you have that capacity, it often remains unconscious.
And how do you start to cultivate self awareness?
By becoming more present in your environment first.
By paying attention to your surroundings and sensing your way through life.
Building enough resources so that you can become more present in your own body.
And then sensing and feeling your body and emotions. Because your body is where you will find the answers. Your body is where the truth lives ❤️🔥
