Becoming ready for any of these steps is not something we decide with our mind. Most situations, behaviours and actions are rooted into our nervous system states and they all serve a purpose until they don’t any longer. 

Growing your capacity is not only about facing challenging emotions. What’s equally important is your ability to experience joy, love, gratitude and fulfilment. Your ability to receive the good and really feel it in your body. This is also tightly linked with your nervous systems capacity to hold and receive.

If you find yourself always looking for that one last thing that is going to change your wellbeing, this is for you. The reason why you keep researching and reading in stead of actually making changes, is the lack of trust on the knowledge that you already hold within.

Emotional eating is not something you just choose to stop doing. And you have likely tried to get rid of this behaviour in many ways. And you can do all the right things to “get rid of” this behaviour but without looking at the root cause of it, it will keep surfacing again and again. And that can be frustrating because you are indeed doing all the right things, right?

My approach is a combination of solution focused coaching and somatic body based approach. Instead of just concentrating on the rational mind and the facts of the situation, we use sensations, emotions and internal stories as a gateway into the unconscious mind that resides in your body.

It takes practice to allow the emotions to come to the surface, especially if you have learned to shut them down, numb out or just ignore them. If you find yourself always feeling the same emotion or not even knowing what you are feeling, theres a big change that you’re not accessing your whole emotional range.

Procrastination often shows up as an inability to start things and just “feeling stuck” or avoiding certain tasks on your to-do list. When you know you should have sent an important email an hour ago and you still find yourself glued to the sofa with Netflix or busy with other unimportant tasks in order to avoid the one that actually matters.

Before I learned to connect with my body I used food to numb anxiety, overwhelm and stress. Many call it emotional eating, I call it a missing connection and a way to escape the bodily sensations. A way to escape something that you don’t know how to approach and process. A way to find safety and nurturing.

There is so much noise around us. What you should do or how you should be, how you should act or react. Sometimes the external noise can get too loud and unconsciously start affecting our actions. Little by little you may start listening more to the outside guidance and making choices according to the external expectations.

I am sure you too have had that experience more than once when you feel something is not right and you still choose to go with it - only to find out later on that you indeed were right about it and it wasn’t the right option for you.